Oh God…

 My BIL is moving to Fort Worth in two weeks and my head is thisclose to exploding. He’s the kind of person who says inappropriately shocking things just to get attention and I get tired of telling him to SHUT IT! He made a comment to me when I was pretending to shake something sideways… His comment was about my breasts, I looked him straight in the face and said “ I’m your fucking sister!” To which he replied “ oh, I didn’t think about it like that” my dude! You’ve known me for 33 years!!!!! His, let’s just call her “wife” to save time, was like “ think mf’er!” 😂😂 I do like her so far. 

I’m so freaking tan!! Got a jump on it this year! My freckles have freckled so nearly all makeup is gone for the summer. Just mascara and lipstick, maybe some eyeliner to make those eyes pop. They look so green when I’m tan. 💕


Ok… WhYDoNt yOu DrEsS YoUr Age? YoU lOoK SiLlY.

So, I realized that this comment… obviously I rewrote it to look the way it feels…. Had to have come from someone on FB. Most likely a private group I belong too… So, Sweet Pea, let me answer you.

Dear person too cowardly to use your real name,

I dress the way that makes me feel good. Dressing “Your age” is an antiquated phrase that’s beneath even you.

We are not our grandmothers nor even our mothers. We need not hide in the darkness because we can no longer bear children so are therefore of no need to be seen.

If you’re married, did your husband become attracted to you because you dressed maidenly? Were you buttoned up and covering your arms, neck, chest and legs? Did you dress in a manner that made YOU feel attractive, sexy and confident? If so, then why change? 

I won’t wear clothes off the sale rack at a department store. I won’t be a drab grandma in flower prints. I won’t wither away into the darkness so I’m not seen. I dislike that very much. I never did do that and I won’t start now. 

If you are of my generation, as I suspect you are, then why would you, a woman who lived through the 80’s, and I did LIVE, in all the grand things of the 80’s, even consider being matronly? Do you no longer feel attractive? Confident? Sexy? Does your partner prefer a dower and drab, invisible you? I’d not be with someone who did. 

So to answer your question, I dress the way I do, because I like me as myself. I like how I express my personality. I like how I express that I can and will be seen. I dress the way I do, because I’d suffocate dressing the way you seem to prefer. Now, be bold and go feel sexy. We only have a relatively short time left. Don’t waste it by hiding. 


And! On that note…. This song… Still They Ride by: Journey is maybe my favorite song of all time. It captures what it felt like to be young and still young at heart. Not forgetting who the fuck you are. It’s about being beautifully reminiscent. I have some VERY specific memories that this song conjures up. I do love that about music.

Maybe we will talk about Robb next time…

Me

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